The Flow of Sensual Energy

Do you want to explore deeper ways of connecting with your partner? Sexologist John Burchell teaches people what it takes to achieve a more fulfilled intimacy. The Source Asia finds out what it takes to become more comfortable with ones own sexuality.

What can one expect from a session with you?

I tend to really tune in to the couple or person who has come to see me, to find out how their sensual energy and heart-opening connection can flow more efficiently for them. So for example, it could be that the woman has a fear of trusting her partner enough to feel safe in fully opening her body and being penetrated by him. Maybe the man needs to learn some skills in gently opening his woman so that he is sensitive to her every movement and patient with her feelings and heart. Maybe he needs a few ideas on how to tune into his beloved partner, so that he is aware of her every move while making love. There are techniques and ways that the man can explore, so that he learns to open his woman more artfully, through touch and deeper, as well as present eye contact. Perhaps the man needs to see how he can circulate this powerful energy they are sharing together and see how he can use his sensitivity to direct this energy and at the same time stay tuned into his partner. This is an example and everyone is different with different needs and levels of experience.

Who should come and see you?

People who already have a certain level of competence in the sensual arts. I’m not talking about Superman or Superwoman here, but simply people who have had some experience and want to deepen their path in this area and open up to more possibilities. They may have had a “glimpse” of it, but want to expand into the whole panoramic view. I’m not a therapist per se, so I don’t work with people who want to focus exclusively on areas of sexual abuse etc. That said, I think we have all experienced multiple levels of dysfunction with sexuality in our environment. It’s just that when you open up to feeling the energy of sexuality in an authentic manner and really open your heart, a great deal of the residue from past negative experiences can be transmuted and transformed through the power of orgasm, release and connection.

Also, both men and women are often not aware that men can be multi-orgasmic. With a bit of training and practice a man can learn to separate the function of orgasm from ejaculation and can have multiple orgasms like many women are capable of. It’s really important that women get exposed to these possibilities, as well as men, so they can assist men in developing this capacity. Women are far more powerful sexual beings, so they need to work with men, in order for men to have a chance to develop control of their process and a certain level of confidence. I think that people who truly want to deepen intimacy benefit greatly from my work.

What sort of issues can you address? Simply physical aspects or also infidelity and emotional traumas?

I really don’t deal with “issues” in the traditional sense. If we do that, then we’re putting all our attention and energy on the “issue” and not what can be done to let it drop away. Extended orgasm is a powerful state of mind and body, and quite often “issues” simply dissolve.

So often it’s about getting people to communicate and connect, getting people to really “feel” one another. Often we have these unconscious agreements with one another that we really haven’t talked about. It’s interesting that you have mentioned infidelity. Very often we have an unconscious agreement in support of monogamy, but we rarely talk about it, since it’s usually just a “given” that monogamy is the agreement. But is it? Have you talked about it together and felt into it at length to really say a passionate “yes” to monogamy? So much is dependant on trust. And if agreements have been broken between couples and there are lies lingering, it will be impossible to open the door to orgasmic bliss in any authentic long-sustaining manner. Really getting crystal-clear on the agreements between you is vital.

A lot of women for example have experienced emotional trauma in the area of sexuality. That’s why it’s really important for men to do their spiritual work and to develop in this area. The reason being that when a conscious man penetrates the woman, it has the capacity to burn away a lot of the confusion and misinformation placed into our women. All of the hurt, pain, suffering and darkness can be brought to the tip of his penis and changed into light. I have witnessed this and it’s real. Massive energetic shifts can take place…very powerful. But unfortunately, it’s a rare occurrence on our planet at this time. I think we’re in the process of changing that though.

If one is in a relationship, should they come and see you with their partner?

That’s a good idea. But it’s important that people don’t drag their partner to a session hoping to fix him or her. The level of intimacy, openness and honesty you have with your intimate partner is simply a reflection of how you are with yourself and your reality. So if you bring only yourself, then that’s a fine place to start too.

How much is food related to one’s sexuality?

Eating good fresh food and super-foods, cleansing and detoxifying, engaging in exercise can bring joy, and it can be a great gift to yourself and your intimate partner. To engage in multi-orgasmic endeavours you will need a certain level of fitness and flexibility. This coupled with a genuine open heart and pure enthusiasm will magnetize magic into your lives. I would stay away from processed foods as much as possible, such as bread, pasta, noodles, hydrogenated vegetable oils etc. They have a very low “multi-orgasmic enhancement quotient” in my experience. So cut as much of that out as you can. The goji berry on the other hand from Chinese Medicine helps boost the sexual capacity of both sexes. All in moderation and plenty of diversification in food intake is wise.

You’re the inventor of the mojo bed. Can you tell us more about it.

The mojo bed has about 70 one inch thick magnets in it, along with orgone generators that have various crystals in them that correspond with the various energy centres or chakras of the body. On top of this matrix of magnets and orgone generators is a natural latex mattress that is heavenly. The powerful north-pole magnetic field in the bed along with the orgone generators allows for the energy of the body to flow more clearly. Because of this it is a useful tool to enhance multi-orgasmic connections, since body energy flow and orgasm-capability seem to be linked. That said, it is just another gizmo of consciousness to improve our lives. The most powerful gizmo of consciousness has got to be the human heart in my experience. When it is open and clear, potent events beyond our wildest imagination can take place.

Any tips you can recommend?

Yes, put the “master” back in the word “masturbate”. Get to know your own needs, desires and subtle energy through play with yourself. Enjoy it and feel it, and at the same time see it as a way to commune with your highest expression. Experience it as a way to open a door to connect with your creator. Notice any odd feelings that may come up through this process, like shame or guilt and then offer them to your creator to be transformed into wonderful sparkles. If you do this enough times, then when two “masters”, who know themselves and their bodies, come together, the divine sparks will really fly and you can both enter a remarkable dimension of existence and healing. You can also pour this energy into goals or dreams you have in mind and infuse these projects with a boost for manifestation.

I also recommend three of Mantak Chia’s books, such as The Multi-Orgasmic Man, The Multi-Orgasmic Woman and The Multi-Orgasmic Couple. They are full of useful and actionable information.

John Burchell can be reached at The New Age Shop.